Are You Committed To Having Work Life Balance?
Ding…. Ding…. Ding!
An alert goes off on my phone. It’s time to spend time with my husband.
Seriously? What if my pants are down to my ankles and I am sitting on the porcelain god letting mother nature run its course?
Or what if I’m responding lights and siren to a battery in progress?
Or what if I’m playing the most competitive round of fuse ball with a 7-year-old that thinks he can beat his mom?
“Sorry son, it’s time for me to ignore you and spend time with your dad,” said no mom EVER.”
It’s a crock of shit!
Yes, I said it. (Boy, that felt good.)
You know why I am fired up about work life balance? Because I thought I could achieve it. I set up a time management schedule and I set time restrictions on all the things I did in order to try to balance it all. Man, I tried.
I set up notifications and had this great plan. I was really trying (and failing miserably) to create that balance and all it did was make me want to scream!
Until I realized that the work life balance you and I are trying to achieve is a bunch of bullshit. You can’t have balance.
When you want to lose 10 pounds you find time to workout and eat healthy. You can’t balance your push-ups while laying on the couch. Or eat a tub of ice cream with your garden salad. It doesn’t work like that.
Consequently, if you want to achieve success in your business or career you are going to have to focus on it. You will have to miss kid’s sports games, birthday parties, and sleep. (oh can we all just have more sleep?)
As Shonda Rhimes said in her Dartmouth commencement speech (see the video of her speech at the end of this post):
“If I am accepting a prestigious award, I am missing my baby’s first swim lesson. If I am at my daughter’s debut in her school musical, I am missing Sandra Oh’s last scene ever being filmed at Grey’s Anatomy. If I am succeeding at one, I am inevitably failing at the other. That is the trade-off. That is the Faustian bargain one makes with the devil that comes with being a powerful working woman who is also a powerful mother. You never feel a hundred percent OK; you never get your sea legs; you are always a little nauseous. Something is always lost.”
We are inevitably giving something up when we are doing something else. Instead, we should make our lives priority-driven. For the most part, you should focus on your priorities and not just tasks or to-do lists.
For instance, you have a new blog coming out and you want to make it epic. (Like this one!) Your priority will be focusing on that blog until it is exactly what you envisioned. Consequently, that means you are going to miss the Walking Dead or a bedtime story that night. It is just the way it is.
So I’ve added new alerts to my phone. The alerts remind me that I am beautiful, focused, confident and successful. (Yes, I have those set up on my phone and I suggest you set them up too. ) Because reminding yourself of just how awesome you are is exactly what is going to keep you going. Through the tough times, and the tougher times.
You can start creating your powerful affirmations in just 5 easy steps. To get you started, I have turned the 5 steps into a printout. I am also sharing my own powerful affirmations with you. You can get my powerful affirmations and the 5 step process to create your affirmations here:Create Your Powerful Affirmations In 5 Easy Steps
What do you think about work life balance?
Is it worth the stress?